What I Wish People Knew About Healing After Assault

 Healing is not linear. Some days feel like progress, while others feel like starting over. For anyone who has experienced sexual assault, this truth can feel overwhelming—but also deeply human. In sharing my story, I hope to shed light on the complexities of healing and the lessons I’ve learned. This is for anyone who needs to know they’re not alone and for those who want to better understand what it means to heal after trauma.

Healing Takes Time (And That’s Okay)

One of the hardest things to accept was that healing wouldn’t happen overnight. At first, I thought I could will myself to “get over it” by staying busy or trying to ignore the pain. But trauma has a way of surfacing when you least expect it. Over time, I’ve learned that it’s okay to move slowly. Small victories—like getting through the day or opening up to someone I trust—are worth celebrating.

Finding Strength Through Faith

One of the most transformative parts of my journey has been leaning into my faith. At my lowest moments, I found solace in prayer, scripture, and the quiet reassurance that I was never truly alone. Psalm 34:18 says, "The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit," and these words became a lifeline for me. Turning to God allowed me to release my pain and find hope in the promise of healing and restoration.

It’s Not Just About Moving On—It’s About Integration

For a long time, I wanted to erase what happened to me. I thought healing meant forgetting. But I’ve come to realize that healing is about integration—acknowledging what happened while refusing to let it define me. It’s about giving myself permission to feel the full spectrum of emotions: grief, anger, hope, and even joy. Each feeling has a place in my journey.

Triggers Are Real, But They Don’t Have to Control You

Triggers can feel like setbacks, but they’re not a sign of failure. For me, certain smells, places, or even casual conversations could bring back memories I wasn’t ready to face. Through therapy and self-care, I’ve learned to recognize my triggers and develop coping strategies. Deep breaths, grounding exercises, and reaching out to a trusted friend have made a world of difference.

Support Systems Matter

No one should have to navigate healing alone. Finding the right support system was crucial for me. This included friends who listened without judgment, a therapist who specialized in trauma, and online communities of survivors who understood my experiences. If you’re supporting someone who’s healing, know that your presence can be incredibly powerful. Sometimes, just being there is enough.

Healing Can Look Different for Everyone

There’s no “right” way to heal. For some, it might mean therapy or medication. For others, it’s finding solace in art, movement, or spirituality. My healing included prayer, journaling, and spending time in nature to feel God’s presence. What matters most is finding what resonates with you and honoring your unique journey.

Tools for Healing Beyond Faith

While my faith has been central to my journey, I understand that not everyone turns to spirituality. There are many tools and practices that can support healing:

• Therapy: Finding a therapist who specializes in trauma can provide a safe space to process your emotions.

• Journaling: Writing down your thoughts and feelings can be a powerful way to release and understand them.

• Mindfulness and Meditation: Practices like deep breathing and grounding exercises can help bring calm during overwhelming moments.

• Support Groups: Connecting with others who have had similar experiences can remind you that you’re not alone.

You Are More Than What Happened to You

One of the most transformative lessons I’ve learned is that I am not defined by my trauma. I am a whole person—complex, resilient, and capable of joy. While the assault is a part of my story, it’s not the entire narrative. Reclaiming my identity has been a powerful step in my healing.

To Anyone Who Feels Alone

If you’re reading this and struggling, please know you are not alone. Healing is hard, but it is possible. There are people who care about you and want to support you. Whether it’s reaching out to a trusted friend, a therapist, or a hotline, taking that first step can make a difference. You deserve to heal, and you deserve to be heard.

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If you or someone you know needs help, here are some resources:

• National Sexual Assault Hotline (U.S.): 1-800-656-HOPE (4673) or www.rainn.org